What not to say to a someone post hysterectomy


Last post I wrote was all about the emotions I have felt as a result of my hysterectomy. Some people don’t think about how their words may hurt someone else. Here is a list of things not to say to someone after their hysterectomy.

Well, you can always adopt.

Adoption is extremely expensive and emotional journey. It may not be the right choice for everyone. Also, they probably don’t want the reminder that they can’t carry their own children.

You can still have your own kids. Surrogacy is an option.

My only reaction to this comment is “are you gonna foot that bill?” Surrogacy is more expensive than adoption and is really not an option for me. Please don’t try and argue me into having biological children through surrogacy. The even worse version of this one is when people offer to be your surrogate.

You’re so lucky that you don’t have a period anymore.

Excuse me? I am lucky that my periods were so bad and that I was in so much pain that I had to have a hysterectomy? I am lucky to never get to carry and/or bear my own children? This one is just wrong on so many different levels.

Maybe you can have a uterine transplant.

A uterine transplant would require yet another surgery. It would require lots of healing time and may be totally unsuccessful. I don’t want to risk that. I don’t want to get my hopes up for nothing. Please respect that. Please don’t try and argue me into this.


Author: thrivingwithendo

Hey yall I'm just a young girl blogging about her experience with Endometriosis!!

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